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A Once in a Lifetime Journey

February 15, 2023

What happens when you neglect your blog? That “Visitors” number on the main page doesn’t increase very fast. Read on.

The Rufous Blogger’s Preamble

Recently I have seen Rufous Towhees feeding in my backyard, which reminded me I should start blogging again. So I decided to do a travel blog about our trip to Texas in September and October 2022 on the way to a reunion with our Texas family. The reunion was so much fun and gave the relatives (brother, sisters, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, and cousins) a chance to visit, and for the younger ones a chance to meet and get to know each other on my brother’s ranch. How often does that happen when you live far apart – it was an amazing experience, our once-in-a-lifetime event that our family will always remember!

The Important Stuff Is Always First!

In Journalism school I learned that the important stuff should always be in the beginning of your article. In this case, the important stuff is the family reunion in Texas and the trip to Texas, in that order. The trip was prompted by a strong desire to take everyone to Texas to see their relatives. However, at some point the trip planning kind of took over. Bottom line, I want my readers to know that the trip was accomplished – we got to Texas where everyone had a marvelous time at the reunion.

The Who, What, Where, When, Why, and How

My entire Oregon family went along on our marathon driving trek (in three cars) across a good part of the United States, about 2500 miles each way. Our daughter and our son and their kids, five grand-kids in all, went along for the ride. My wife was nice enough to drive and let me sit in the back seat and compile a travel log. Our oldest grandson rode shotgun for much of the trip and kept my wife company while she drove. I’ll spare you most of the boring travel details, where we stayed and the restaurants, but I will include some of the interesting things we saw and did along the way.

Randy Newman:  Sigmund Freuds Impersonation of Albert Einstein in America

I’d like to pause and give a shout-out to America. On our journey, we crossed several states, Oregon, Idaho, Nevada, Utah, New Mexico, Texas, Colorado, and Wyoming, and briefly skirted Arizona and Oklahoma. I’ve traveled a lot in my life, partly at my own expense, in the U.S. and Mexico, and partly on the Navy’s nickel (to Vietnam and Australia), so I appreciate what our world has to offer. I hear people brag about Europe, and it is a very interesting travel destination, but so is America. However, you need to be on the ground, not flying over it at 35,000 feet to really appreciate it.

Maps – Hotels – Restaurants – Rest Stops – Gas Stations – and Tourist Attractions

The previous heading is a snapshot of what we experienced. I give AAA credit for the maps, the triptiks they produced for us – full of very useful information needed for our trip.

The following is a “smidgen” of the text from a planning document I did for the trip. I created a Google Sheet with all the pertinent information for each hotel stop on our trip. Anyway, there were 5 legs, roughly 500 miles each (thanks to AAA), and I included the lodging information for each stopover. The Google Sheet was a handy way to update the document with any travel changes, and it made it easy to share the information online with everyone going on the trip.

Leg 1/Twin Falls, ID, 9/24-25: TownePlace Suites

2 Queen Beds: All rooms booked, as of 8/21/22, are with 2 Queen beds all in one room, with a pull out sofa in a separate sitting area (but same main room), $235.41 (inc. taxes) for each room for 1 night.

On Leg 6, after spending 2 days in the Amarillo Embassy Suites, we will be driving to Mound Creek Ranch to meet with the Texas family for the reunion.”

I mentioned that I would share some of the interesting things that we did along the way on our trip. We had heard that Zion National Park was worth a stop, so we stayed in Springdale, Utah for 2 days at a La Quinta Inn. We were within shuttle and walking distance from the main park entrance.

Really good Zion web site:

https://www.nps.gov/zion/index.htm

Suffice it to say, we checked out Zion thoroughly, hiking and enjoying the wonderful topography, as you can see in the Web pictures. I will probably add more about our travel adventures to this blog, but for now I’ll try to recreate the best part of this trip, which was our time spent at Mound Creek Ranch.

Mound Creek Ranch

We rolled into my younger brother’s ranch north of Houston in the late afternoon on Friday, September 30. Our cross-country trip had taken 6 days. We were warmly greeted by my brother and his wife. We went through the process of finding places to lay our road-weary heads that night, all 11 of us, six adults and five grand-kids. Not surprisingly, my brother had the accommodations figured out. We had a light meal and settled in for the night. The house my wife and I, my brother and his wife, and their two boys stayed in was very comfortable and interesting. Interesting because it was full of antique furniture that my brother and his wife had collected over the years. Every bed that we slept in was an antique bed. Waking up the next morning and watching that Texas sun rise and the cattle grazing in the distance was a great start to our first full day at Mound Creek.

My daughter and her gang – her husband, two daughters and a son – stayed in a house up the road aways from the Wilson house where we were. It was called the Wilson house because of the previous owners. After breakfast, next on the agenda was getting all the grand-kids on a horse. Before we left Oregon I had envisioned the kids getting a taste of what a working (and very successful) ranch was like. I was not disappointed – my brother spent time with each of the kids, going through the basics of mounting the horse and sitting in the saddle correctly, holding the reins, and directing the horse. They each had a turn at riding the horse. They loved it.

While the kids were learning horsemanship from my brother, the adults observed and took pictures from outside the corral. A quick note about Mound Creek Ranch. It’s large, about 800 acres, with ranch buildings for conducting business, and places to live, and a fishing lake, which the kids also got to enjoy. I’m very proud of my brother for his business savvy and his dedication to practicing good stewardship on his land.

After everyone had a chance to enjoy the pool at the main house, the first full day was capped off by a BBQ at Four Oaks, an area reserved for get-togethers and fun at Mound Creek. Our reunion group was not large, but it was a representation of our Oregon and Texas families, about 22 of us, plus the people, hand-picked by my brother, doing the cooking and serving the delicious food. We mainly talked, catching up on our lives since the last gathering, but we had horseshoes to toss and other games to play. As the Texas sun began to set, we headed back to get some rest. What a day it had been!

On Sunday, the second full day, it was time for the fish fry and more socializing at Four Oaks. Things were winding down, and we all knew it was almost time for some to say goodbye, not easy to do when you’re enjoying each other’s company. My two sisters and their significant others were leaving to go home as were my nephews and their families.

Willie Nelson:  On the Road Again

Time to Head Back Home

On Monday, it was time for the Oregon group (of 11) to sadly say their goodbyes and hit the road again. In planning the trip I asked AAA to do a different route for the return to Oregon trip, just for variety, and as it turned out the “high road” (up through Denver) was about 200 miles shorter. As you can imagine, having 500-mile (+ or -) made it easier to plan the hotel stops, although some of the stops I might not have selected, like Lamar, Colorado or Rawlins, Wyoming. However, I will say that we were able to find hotels that were clean, comfortable, and not too expensive on the entire trip.

A Mid-Course Adjustment

But before we left Texas, we made a minor adjustment to our travel plans for the group. My wife wanted to briefly visit her brother and sister-in-law in Houston, and the rest of the group wanted to go through Waco to visit the Magnolia Market, you know the one publicized on the Chip and Joanna Gaines TV show. So on Monday, my wife and I went to Houston, enjoying our short visit in Houston with relatives, home-cooked pasta, and relaxing moments around a swimming pool. The next morning it was time to hit the road again and head for Wichita Falls, our next stop. The plan was to meet up there with my son’s family and my daughter’s family. We stayed in a La Quinta Inn. As you might expect, considering we had been on our trip for about 10 days, sightseeing was a lower priority. Although I considered visiting Sheppard Air Force Base in Wichita Falls because I’m a “plane freak” (actually, I’m also a “train freak”, be sure you visit the California State Railroad Museum if you’re in Sacramento, well worth the visit to an amazing slice of America’s train history).

Just a Few Travel Notes

I promised that I wouldn’t belabor you with travel notes, so I’ll try to bring this epic blog to an epic conclusion, with only one or two (or three) sightseeing comments. On the outbound trip (to Texas) we stayed two nights in an Embassy Suites in Amarillo, Texas, partly because I love their full breakfast that is included in the cost of your room and partly because Palo Duro Canyon is less than an hour’s drive from Amarillo. Palo Duro Canyon is not as impressive as the Grand Canyon but it is pretty cool and worth a stop. Take plenty of water if you visit in the warmer months. I already mentioned Zion National Park, but Antelope Canyon, which is nearby, is beautiful (Google it and check out the pictures).

What have I left out? Wind turbines, I have a gym friend in Portland who wrote a book about energy, Fueling America, an Insider’s Journey by Jack Kerfoot). I did some editorial work on the book. It’s a very thought-provoking book in which Jack discusses energy issues in our world from an expert’s perspective. Anyway, since I wasn’t driving on the way back to Portland I could pay attention to the scenery and things of interest such as wind turbines. I was astounded by the number of states that have a lot of wind turbines. Every now and then, as we rode along, a tractor-trailer truck hauling a wind turbine component would pass us on the interstate. Up close the support columns look huge.

What’s Left – the Two  R’s

That’s about it for this traveler’s epistle, except for the two R’s I mentioned in my previous heading. Several people in our itinerant group needed gluten-free food, and some of us had GF apps on our phones to help us locate the right places to eat on our journey. If you are in Oregon, we recommend Rooster’s in Pendleton, just off I-84. Rooster’s has a good GF menu. In Springdale, Utah you might want to try Oscar’s Cafe on the main drag in “Zionville”. We ate there twice.

Did I mention “rest stops” – very important on long trips when you’ve been hydrating, especially important for us older types whose bladders are not suited for long trips. We learn to  pay attention to the signs that say, “Next rest stop 52 miles”. The rest stops themselves vary widely. Some of  them are quite nice with historical or informational displays about the region and rest rooms that are roomy and clean. We also bought very artistic American Indian jewelry at one or two of them.

The final comment is in two parts – one, take time to visit and enjoy America by car in a leisurely fashion, and two, take time to visit your families and friends who might be far away.

Photos

Please enjoy these photos of the many that we took on our trip.

Our first major tourist stop on the Texas trip

As you can see, Zion is very popular.

A stream in the main park

Oh deer!

My son and his family on the Watchman Trail.

Trails abound at Zion, of varying difficulty as you might like.

This heron was not perturbed by human presence.

Taking advantage of the beautiful light.

Near Amarillo, another major tourist stop, Cadillac Ranch

Imagine this . . .

We brought our spray paint, the kids had a blast.

Oh, did I mention it’s on historic Route 66?

Hats off to Texas DOT, nice rest stop!

A grandkid, getting his riding lesson!

Such a good brother, teaching the kids horsemanship!

Couldn’t resist this picture with an Oregon beer sign and the other signs

Another grandkid, getting her riding lesson!

Where it all happened!

Wyoming was well worth visiting!

No words needed!

Gas prices in Texas are the best.

Silos and gardens in Waco, Texas

Saying Goodbye to Beth

May 13, 2021
Matthew 5:4:  Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

A Brief Aside about Grieving

Quite honestly, I’ve struggled with this post, trying to pick the right time to write it after my sister’s death on Tuesday, April 27. I wanted my emotions to be under control to the point where I was actually able to sit down at my keyboard and compose the content. I’ve lost other members of my immediate family, my Mom and my Dad, but it has been a long time since I experienced that feeling of loss.

I think that most people when they are grieving look for a way to handle the grief and to process their feelings in a way that lightens the burden of losing someone that you cared about. I decided to do a long run yesterday, and the day before I was lap swimming. The whole time I was running and swimming, I thought of my sister.

Who She Was

My subject is my recently departed oldest sister, Beth. I wasn’t asked to write her obituary, but she deserves a lot of praise for the way she lived her life. She received praise at her recent memorial service, people expressed their thoughts about what a fine person she was. In my own words, as her brother, this is what I have to say about Beth:

I think Beth accomplished the most in her life by being who she was, a loving, caring person who was willing to reach out unselfishly to others. In her professional life she was a career counselor who helped many people orient their lives in a positive way and find self-sufficiency.

The back cover of her book, which was published right before she died, summarizes Beth’s life this way:

“Beth Blazek Buckles Deans is a widow, mother and great grandmother, small business counseling person, educator, horseback rider choir member, skier, professor, and Christian who supports persons seeking to find their fitting career. She has provided her insights and histories of clients who have found their path.”

Here’s the publisher’s link if you’re interested in checking out her book.

Beth had a wide range of musical tastes, but I thought I’d close with this Vivaldi piece.

Vivaldi: Four Seasons (Spring)

Happy Birthday!

November 1, 2020

Sometimes a reminder is all it takes to get you started, like texts from relatives about a birthday or, in this case it was two birthdays.

Antonio Vivaldi, Four Seasons (Autumn)

It’s a Special Day, My Mom’s Birthday

The first text had a photo of my mom and my two older sisters. The message said that she was loved, and we did love her and miss her. She was a good mom who raised good kids, and we appreciate her for giving us a good start in our lives. God bless you, mom.

Another Special Birthday Today

The other text from a relative was about our daughter’s birthday, born on November 1, like my mom. Our daughter is a great mother, who puts an amazing amount of effort into her family, and that fact is evident in the kids she (and her husband) are raising. The kids are such a delight to be around and to enjoy.

A Parting Note and a Quote

I think it goes without saying that “the family” is a basic building block in our society and not to be taken for granted. You don’t have to watch the evening news to figure that out, just walk around and observe people with their families.

Family is not an important thing. It’s everything. Michael J. Fox

A bunch more “family” quotes from BrainyQuote – you choose. Sorry about any pop-up ads, not mine.

Memorial Day Blog

May 25, 2020

Thank You So Much!

This is a tribute to those who served and died in the wars.

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America!

Bruce Springsteen: Summer of 69

I wasn’t in favor of war in my youth, but the draft still existed, and, guess who got drafted. Vietnam was pretty hot then (late sixties), so to avoid that I managed to crash my younger brother’s motorcycle and subsequently failed my induction physical. They gave me a temporary deferment so that I could heal. Being the genius that I am, I joined the Navy Reserves thinking that surely that would keep me out of Vietnam. Sitting in San Diego after my basic training, waiting for my orders, I heard my name called.

“Naval Support Activity – Saigon” was not on my list of preferred duty stations. There’s a reason why servicemen refer to that duty station list as a “dream sheet”. After my pre-Vietnam indoctrination at Coronado Island, my Dad (God bless you, Dad) said goodbye to me at Travis Air Force Base. His words were, “Keep your head down, son”, very good advice. It was going to be a long flight to Tan Son Nhut airport in Saigon, so I bought a paperback in the airport bookstore, The First Circle by Alexander Solzhenitsyn. Not the best choice of a book when you’re going off to war. I didn’t read beyond the first chapter.

Who Should We Honor Today?

According to Google (who else), Memorial Day originally honored those who died in the Civil War but now honors those who have died in any war.

Feel free to look at my December 3, 2017 blog about Vietnam. I included a brief Vietnam movie in that blog that illustrates what it was like in THAT war zone, what a Swift Boat looks like, etc. The wars in Iraq, Afghanistan, and other wars had their casualties, and those service people deserve to be honored today.

I served on a barracks ship that supported Swift Boats (“brown-water Navy”). My role was as a noncombatant, but the people we supported were combatants. They came and went; literally, i.e we frequently lost boat crews. A boat would go out on a mission and become a casualty. I never became close friends with the “Swifties” because the opportunity wasn’t there – maybe as a familiar face, someone standing in a chow line, or gearing up to go out on another mission. They were only acquaintances, but some of them paid the ultimate price. OK, we could digress into whether or not the Vietnam War was worth it. Considering all the lives lost, on both sides, it wasn’t. And, some of the casualties were draftees, not enlisted soldiers and sailors. They didn’t volunteer, but they still served. Good or bad, wars happen.

I’m going to end with a quote, actually it’s a bumper sticker that I saw on a neighbor’s car.

“Except For Ending Slavery, Fascism, Nazism, And Communism, WAR Has Never Solved Anything.”

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Happy Mother’s Day, Mom!

May 10, 2020

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My Mom

Glen Miller: Big Band

Mom’s Are Wonderful People!

None of us would be here if it weren’t for moms. Those of us whose moms are gone miss them dearly. Just browse the social media postings for May 10, 2020, and you’ll see what I mean. One Facebook friend posted today that she kept a voicemail of her mom’s last message for years just so she could listen to her voice and wouldn’t forget what she sounded like.

A Sentimental Deja Vu

About six years ago I went to my hometown in Texas for a high school class reunion. It was a memorable trip for several reasons. First, I got to see my classmates who I hadn’t seen in a long, long time. Also, I made a special trip to the cemetery where my mom was buried. A bit of information before I reveal the last reason.

Before I left Portland I googled my hometown to see if my old house was still there. Technology always amazes me. Just saying, this had been over half a century since I lived in the house. I looked at an aerial view of the neighborhood, zoomed in, and there it was, my old house. After all the parties and reminiscing with my classmates, I went on my “memory” tour. There was a for sale sign in the yard of my old house, and I contacted the real estate agent to see if I could visit the house, explaining that I had lived there. The house was occupied. I knocked on the door, introduced myself, and asked if I could come in. As it turned out, I found out later that the woman who lived there knew my younger sister from their school days. I should interject, if it weren’t for Texas overwhelming friendliness, this might not have worked. Don’t try it in New York City.

Think of one of those movies where the protagonist, say Benjamin (Dustin Hoffman) in The Graduate, is attending his graduation party, a pool party. He makes his grand entrance dressed in his scuba gear (presumably a graduation present), the sound of his breathing amplified by the face mask. Not sure why that scene compares to my hometown experience, but think about how you might react in my situation. I hadn’t been in this house for over 50 years. The fact that it was still standing amazed me. Except for different furnishings, it was the same house. I walked through the living room into the kitchen. This was the kitchen where my mom fixed meals for the family. Slight changes, cabinets had been updated and some new appliances, but otherwise the exact spot where mom fixed all those Sunday dinners (usually roast beef, mashed potatoes, and green beans), tapioca pudding, which I loved, and peanut butter cookies, also a favorite. In the next room was the dining room. In those days, families sat at a table and had their meals. Truthfully, I don’t remember conversation topics.

Continuing, we headed up the stairs. Indelibly imprinted in my mind is the cat on the stairway as we ascended, looking up with a puzzled expression (who is this unknown person in my house?). At the top was a bedroom two of my sisters shared and down a long hallway past a walk-in attic was the bedroom my brother and I shared. The whole time I was taking pictures, having gotten permission from the owners. I know, as I’ve implied, kind of surreal. My old bedroom was more or less the same – this was the same bedroom with the repainted ceiling, repainted because the lab experiment with my chemistry set (Christmas present) was literally a bust. Anyway, after the tour I thanked the owner and made my exit.

This was the most important reason for my visit – my mom’s presence was felt in that old house, and I’m so glad I returned. I don’t know what else to say, but here’s an exact quote from one of my mom’s letters, obviously a very personal thing to share, but it seemed important to say it. The letter was addressed to my aunt whose husband had just died.

Dearest (Aunt’s name),
How are you? I’m so ashamed of myself for not writing or calling. I think of you many times a day and pray that you are adjusting to your aloneness. No one can know what you are going through until they have experienced the loss of their loved one. I do feel that you and (uncle’s name) had something within your own lives that few, few married people ever find. It seems ironical that mortals cannot express themselves naturally and freely. I have never learned to show or let others know how I feel.

My mom’s given names were Jessie Helen Elizabeth.

 

Resolution Reboot – v2.0

March 25, 2020

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Looking in the Rear-view Mirror: Resolution Reboot

Now that we’re over two-and-a-half months into 2020, I wanted to check in, see how you’re doing, tell you how I’m doing – resolutions kept, resolutions broken, resolutions revised or tossed – and perhaps chart a course for what’s left of 2020.

“Keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you.” (Walt Whitman)

A Note about the Music

The two pieces of music in this blog are by Vangelis. The 76-year-old Greek composer is one of the most important, influential figures in the history of electronic music as well as the world of film scores. His best-known works are the Chariots of Fire (1981) and Blade Runner (1982) soundtracks and the tracks used in the Cosmos (1980) television series. I find Vangelis music very thought-provoking and relaxing. I recommend ear buds or headphones to better appreciate the music.

Vangelis: L’apocalypse des animaux (soundtrack)

 

Sidebar: COVID-19

Just an aside to give you some of my thoughts on the virus. Less than two weeks ago I was still going to the gym three times a week, swimming, and running (actually, I still run three times a week). However, my well-meaning adult children, said, “Dad, you have to stay home.” No matter now, they closed all the gyms where I live. I’m not panicking, just waiting for a cure and waiting for COVID-19 to run its course. Without getting religious on you, I’ll just say that I’m confident that it will be resolved and our normal lives will be resumed.

Going Beyond New Year’s Resolutions

Although I love Woody Guthrie’s no frills doodle-filled list of New Year’s resolutions from 1943, to broaden your mindset, think of New Year’s resolutions as tools that we use for self-improvement. You might want to go back to an article I included in my January 7 blog, written by David G. Allan. His concept I thought was very interesting, his “meaning of life” exercise. Granted it goes beyond a simple list of resolutions that you write down and try to accomplish. If you read the entire article, note that he suggests that you turn your “purpose” into action.

Allan gives examples of some very famous people’s answer to the meaning question:

“Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” (Albert Einstein)
“Throw little torches out to lead people through the dark.” (Whoopi Goldberg)
“Love.” (David G. Allan)

A couple of life meanings I thought of for myself were – “show more compassion to others” and “try to be less judgemental”.

Another good reference, if you’re serious about finding your “purpose”, is Rick Warren’s book, The Purpose Driven Life.

My Own Resolutions List

For each of my resolutions below, I’ll give some of the affirmations from Daily Word that seemed relevant to me.

  • Relax more. A good, personal mantra to remember when you’re stressed is – just breathe.
“Relax: I relax my mind, heart, and body.” (Daily Word, March 7, 2020)
  • Pray for others and pray at least once a day.
“My prayers bless others and uplift the world.” (Daily Word, April 25, 2020)
  • Good deeds – think of others; small deeds count too.
“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” (Mahatma Gandhi)
  • Don’t judge others – this one is high on my list of resolutions.
“For God will bring every deed into judgment, including every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil.” (Ecclesiastes 12:14)
  • Stay healthy – take care of myself.
“I choose to create and experience abundant life.” (Daily Word, February 23, 2019)
  • Forgive – all others and myself.
“Then Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.’”
  • Write more – at least once a day.
Why not, it worked for Stephen King.
  • Be fair-minded and less opinionated.
“Everyone is entitled to his own opinions, but not to his own facts.” (Daniel Patrick Moynihan)
  • Spend more time with my family.
“The family is the first essential cell of human society.” (Pope John XXIII),

More Brainy Quotes about family.

A Beacon of Light

“Be a beacon of light in the forest of uncertainty.” (My own “purpose” mantra for the time being)

I’ll wrap up this blog with some media information that you might find useful. I’m constantly looking for independent, unbiased, and accurate news sources. As always, you may choose to disagree with anything I write, and your feedback is welcome.

The following are new media sources on my list and not fully vetted, i.e. I haven’t checked them out thoroughly, but I thought they were worth looking at.

“We just want the facts ma’am.” (Sergeant Joe Friday, Dragnet TV series. OK, you’re right, only a boomer would know that quote)

Epoch Times is a subscription publication, but you might want to check it out. To see other examples of their news coverage, go to their podcast:

Judicial Watch (free subscription). You be the judge.

There are quite a few Christian news outlets, I selected this one at random.

Another site (not a news source), “Protect Press Freedom”, the mainstream media apparently are supporting – Nora O’Donnell (CBS?) mentioned it on one of her broadcasts. Why was I watching mainstream news media, must have landed on it when I was channel surfing. I decided not to provide a link to the PPF site until I vetted it.

One More Vangelis to End With

You’ll recognize the music if you’re a Harrison Ford fan.

Vangelis: Blade Runner (End Titles), 1982

Pictures, of Course

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Physical, Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual: Part III – Emotional

January 7, 2020

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Dad and son

Introduction: Type A or Type B?

What are Type A and Type B personalities according to Wikipedia?

I think in my last post in this series, Mental, I got into some really heady stuff (sorry, “heady” wasn’t intended to be a pun) about memory, about the long-term effects of marijuana, etc. Obviously mental and emotional are very closely connected and interactive, but think of mental as the engine and emotional as the resulting output – keep the “engine” tuned up and the “output” will be efficient and reliable.

I would label myself as a Type A person – hard for me to relax, always working on something. The Wikipedia definition fits me very well, especially “impatient” and “more competitive”.

Two days ago my morning Daily Word reading (affirmation) was:

“I give my mind and body permission to rest and relax”.

The accompanying Bible verse for that day was:

Psalm 23:2-3: “He makes me lie down in green pastures; he leads me beside still waters; he restores my soul.”

Wow, even if you don’t read the Bible you have to admit the Psalm verses are powerful and calming.

A Brief Flashback

Looking at my 2019 New Year’s post if you want to check it out. You might want to take the time to think about “what is the meaning of life” or “what is my purpose in life”. David Allan’s Reader’s Digest article provides ideas on how to figure it out.

Don’t Overthink It

Some of the solutions to keeping your emotions in working order are very simple and attainable – try relaxing, practice breath control, do yoga, exercise, hang out with your friends (or if you don’t have a lot of friends, make new friends).

Wrapping It Up

Just quotes . . .

For a creative writer possession of the ‘truth’ is less important than emotional sincerity. (George Orwell)

Here’s a link to a bunch more quotes if you’re interested.

Music and pictures are always a challenge, I hope you like my visual and auditory offerings in my blog posts.

Joe Cocker: Feelin’ Alright

 

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It’s 2020: What’s Next?

January 5, 2020

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It’s a Brand New Year

Digifish Music: Second Dawn

Prelude: You Must Expect It of Yourself!

In the pool area of my gym, the quote below is in huge letters superimposed over the picture of a swimmer looking directly at you with a knowing look in her eyes and saying:

“Before you can accomplish something, you must expect it of yourself.”

Maybe that’s the ticket for making New Year’s resolutions and actually keeping them. As I noticed a couple of days ago, the gym where I work out was very busy. As they say, the traffic will subside when people lose the motivation that prompted their “resolution list” and they stop coming to the gym on a regular basis.

If you read this blog, you know that I’m a big believer in fitness – all kinds, physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. It’s challenging, but really worth it in the long run. My goal this time is to throw some ideas your way, just to plant some good thoughts about what to expect of yourself this year.

Seriously, Woodie Guthrie?

I ran across this item, Woody Guthrie’s No Frills Doodle List-Filled List of 33 New Year’s Resolutions from 1943 and wanted to include it – you’ll find it both amusing and titillating. Guthrie’s 33 list of resolutions is impressive, some tongue in cheek, but others are right on:

  • Wash teeth if any
  • Listen to radio a lot
  • Learn people better
  • Love (4 occurrences)
  • Change socks (love that one)
  • Help win war
  • Wake up and fight
  • Dream good

After you see Woody’s list, you might want to check out the Open Culture web site offerings.

A Humorous Sidebar: Humorous Words

Not to distract you from our main goal, pondering our 2020 resolutions, this humorous Reader’s Digest item was too good not to share. Ignore the ads and enjoy!

A More Serious Item

I watched a program on public TV about N. Scott Momaday, the other night and found his ideas very thought-provoking. Here’s a quote from the program “The Man Made of Words”:

“Most of us have developed an attitude of indifference towards the land. We Americans must come to the moral comprehension of the earth and air. We must live according to the principle of a land ethic. The alternative  is that we shall not live at all.”

By the way, he won a Pulitzer Prize for his book, House Made of Dawn. I haven’t read it, but I plan to.

I can’t say that I’m an environmentalist, but I try to be aware of the small role I can play. The part of the country where I live just outlawed the use of plastic grocery bags. If you forget to bring your tote bags, you can buy paper bags for a nickel when you check out. At my house we recycle. Maybe it’s too little too late to undo the damage and save the earth, but you have to try. OK, so you can add that resolution to your list, “don’t forget your tote bag”.

One More “Preachy” Item

A parting shot before I wrap this up. I was watching a program about Tuscany the other night – why is it that public TV seems to be the only thing worth my time these days? Anyway, it was interesting, partly because it looks so beautiful, and I would like to go there.

By the way, the TV program is “Rick Steves Europe”, really well-produced show that provides travel information and history. In this segment they talked about the local history and culture and how it affects the citizens (or vice versa). They were in Siena, Italy, where they practice something called “passiegata”. This is a daily evening ritual where the locals walk around in the streets, visiting with friends, eating, and just relaxing. Notice I said walking, that’s right, no cars. One more comment in the Tuscany piece:

“A community ruled by a just government enjoys peace, prosperity, and is great place to raise your kids.”

FYI: Imprimis

I haven’t read all of these Imprimis publications, but I’ve read enough of them to raise my awareness level of important issues in our society and to make me want to learn more. This is the main link to the web site, you can pick and choose the specific publications of interest to you.

More Music and Pictures

The bridge pictures are NOT metaphorical, nah, of course not, too obvious. The clouds, well, you can draw your own conclusions. Bottom line is, I just like taking pictures, and sometimes they are symbolic. The music, yeah, kind of obvious, but I really like the movie.

Back to the Future: Main Theme (from the movie)

 

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Is it 2019 Yet?

December 31, 2018

Is Portland, Oregon weirder than Austin, Texas?

I watched a program on public TV the other day about Vortex I, a documentary about a 1970 event, really interesting and historic as it relates to the state of Oregon. I may have to do a follow-up blog about the Portland vs Austin question.

Thanks to Portland State University and the Oregon Historical Society for the Vortex I web write-up.

It Is Still 2018?

Yes, as I put pen to paper (actually fingers to keyboard) drafting this post, probably my last post for the year, there is only a full day left in 2018 before the big ball drops in Times Square. No, I won’t be there, but I have a runner friend who lives in Oregon but really likes New York.

The first and only time I was in New York occurred when I was a teenager. I was with my oldest sister and her husband, and it was Christmas time. We did a lot of “tourist stuff”, went to Rockefeller Center with the big tree and the ice skaters. We also went to a supper club in mid-town Manhattan where Joan Rivers was performing. She was pregnant, and I thought her jokes were pregnant. Anyway, for a boy who had grown up in small-town Texas, New York was an amazing experience – from a town of less than 8,000 to New York City, walking down 5th Avenue where people were packed in practically elbow to elbow. The subway and Greenwich Village were fun too.

Was 2018 a Good Year for You?

For me, now winding down 2018. I can say that it has been a good year, possibly a great year, but I’m ready to move on to new challenges. When you get “older and wiser”, you tend to get philosophical (and more forgetful) about life. Hopefully, no matter what your age, if you look back and reflect on 2018, you will smile and say that it has been a hoot or an adventure or whatever, and you will look forward to 2019. There are two quotes, a Nelson Demille quote at the top of that page and a Hunter S. Thompson quote at the bottom in my Favorite Quotes post. In my opinion, those two quotes say it all.

What is the Meaning of Life?

If you are at all interested in the meaning of life or the purpose of life I’m suggesting that you read another Reader’s Digest article, to start you off on the right foot for 2019.

The excellent article, Maintain Your Purpose in Life, was written by David G. Allan.

If you’re old enough, you may remember that screensaver from many years ago, a weird red and green cartoon character, mouth open and tongue hanging out (captioned the “meaning of life”) that flitted around the computer screen daring you to click it with your mouse, and of course it always evaded you. Regardless of the implication suggested by the screensaver creator that it isn’t possible to figure it out, read Allan’s article and give it some thought, about your own purpose in life. For him it’s a yearly exercise, and he says that his answer changes over time. Don’t overthink it – the year he got engaged, Allan’s answer to the question was “Love”.

He also points out that this isn’t a theoretical exercise, you should turn your answer into action. If your answer is “love”, then you should love more.

Bottom line, there is no right answer, only what’s right for you at any given time. He talks about how studies have shown that people who have a specific purpose in life and can articulate it, live longer. He suggests that if you take the time to think about it and answer the question, it will in effect add meaning to your life.

Allan quotes some of the answers from famous people.

  • “Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” (Albert Einstein)
  • “The sole meaning of life is to serve humanity.” (Leo Tolstoy)
  • “There is only the meaning we each give to our life, an individual meaning, an individual plot, like an individual novel, a book for each person.” (Anais Nin)

What’s Ahead – Foreshadowing my Blog for 2019

Stuff about good people and what they do. If you read my November blog, I included a link to Reader’s Digest stories. Every November Reader’s Digest publishes their America’s Nicest Places issue. A  couple of other interesting links for you:

Imprimis articles (of course)

Vietnam, my experiences and my observations about the war.

More about “Is Portland, Oregon weirder than Austin, Texas?”

Mindfulness, a continuation of my blog topic. A subject that keeps popping up in the media.

The Big Leap, a book by Gay Hendricks – I included the link in a November post, just boring “self-improvement” stuff. Kind of like meditation, it may require some effort on your part to realize the positive results.

Music and Pictures

Vivaldi, The Four Seasons (Winter)

Vivaldi, The Four Seasons (Spring)

Vivaldi, The Four Seasons (Summer)

Vivaldi, The Four Seasons (Autumn)

Some Parting Shots

I’ve mentioned my Daily Word readings – just a couple of recent ones to pass along that I thought were noteworthy.

December 29, 2018, “Love: It is my nature to extend love.”

“I recognize that forgiveness is easier than condemnation because forgiveness reflects the truth of who I am. God is perfect love and therefore so am I.”

A companion Bible verse, Ephesians 4:26: “Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.”

December 30, 2018: “Power: I am a spiritual being, bestowed with great power.”

“I align my thoughts with my highest good, envisioning health, abundance, love, and success.”

If you have been reading The Big Leap, the last sentence should remind you of Hendrick’s “universal success mantra” that he discusses in the book.

That’s it for 2018, see you next year.

 

 

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November 2018 Reflections

December 1, 2018

Quotations and Books

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”  Marcus Aurelius
Books:  The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks (not an easy read but a good “self-improvement” book if you’re willing to make the effort, link to audible.com).

I really like Marcus Aurelius quotes, so here’s another one that Hendricks includes in his book toward the end of it. Keep in mind that Marcus Aurelius was a soldier who lived in first century Rome.

“I am part of the whole, all of which is governed by nature. I am intimately related to all of the parts which are of the same kind as myself. If I remember these two things, I cannot be discontented with anything that arises out of the whole because I am connected to the whole.” Marcus Aurelius
“There are times in our lives when we realize that our past is precisely what it is, we cannot change it, but we can change the story we tell ourselves about it, and by doing that we can change the future.” Eleanor Brown (from a Criminal Minds episode)

With the Eleanor Brown quote in mind, let’s dive in to the rest of this November blog.

Other Thoughts – Boomer or Not, Imprimis

It’s fun to reflect to get a different perspective. Obviously, since I’m older, I suppose I’m a “baby boomer”, but I’m right on the cusp. Tom Brokaw called another pre-WWII group “the greatest generation” (he wrote a book by that title). For “millennials”, it would be a shorter time period to reflect on their lives. They also would not be able to remember a time when you didn’t have to lock things – house, car, bike, etc. I was talking to someone at the gym about that, growing up in a time when that was true, at least in a small town like the one where I grew up. You walk out the front door leaving it unlocked and spend the whole day out, no worries. Not drawing conclusions on society in general, but obviously things are different in the 21st century.

As you already know if you read my blog, I’m an Imprimis fan. You might want to check out their publications online or better yet, get on their mailing list for a free printed copy of each publication. For example, here’s a different take on how things used to be, the piece that Amy Wax did for the Imprimis January 2018 publication, “Are We Free to Discuss America’s Real of Problems”. Pay special attention to the first 10 or 12 paragraphs, where she contrasts contemporary American society with our society between the end of World War II and the mid-1960s. You can draw your own conclusions, but I strongly recommend reading the last three paragraphs, especially the one that starts with “Disliking, avoiding, and shunning people who don’t share our politics is not good for our country.”

Back to November 2018 – A Few Snippets

You’ll notice the details that I’m able to remember from the entire month of November – admittedly, I do a daily journal, so it’s not all from memory.

On November 1, I tested some Nike shoes (testing gives me Nike Employee Store privileges, which saves me money on running shoes). November 1 is also my beautiful daughter’s birthday. In my family it’s a tradition to take the birthday honoree out to eat at a restaurant of their choosing. We celebrated her birthday on November 3 at the Old Spaghetti Factory, a great place for adults and kids, with good food and reasonable prices.

The rest of that first week of November, was our normal routine – for my wife, volunteer work at a local senior center, Bible study, pitching in with the grandkids, and cooking for our Monday night family dinner at our house. For me, it was gym workouts, running, and my running club had a banquet to reward volunteers who participated in 2018 events. Actually, on November 6 we went to SoCal to visit relatives. You may have seen my “On the Road, SoCal, November 2018” entry. Just a brief diversion from my November snippets to share my reactions to the SoCal trip.

What Did I Learn in SoCal?

Did I learn anything, or was it just another vacation trip, five days in the sun (no complaints), hanging out with friends and relatives, and total relaxation in a very nice setting. About learning, the question is rhetorical, we always learn things. On this trip I learned on a higher level:

  • People are tough and resilient. While we were there, the mass shooting at Thousand Oaks happened, and the Woolsey fire in SoCal and the fire in northern California, all happened in that week.
  • Most people (not all) are friendly and approachable, willing to share things about themselves. There were many people in the hotel who had evacuated their homes.
  • Most people will help others who are in a bind, sometimes going out of their way to help. There were hundreds of fire-fighting professionals from Oregon and Washington who volunteered two weeks of their time to help fight the fires and to help people in need. Another example, an Oregon man loaded up his business truck with food and supplies and drove to California.
  • More examples of people helping people, check out these Readers Digest stories – I was especially impressed with “Life Moves Yoga in Killeen, Texas”.
  • Relationships with people close to you are worth preserving but may require extra effort.

Back to November 2018 – A Few Snippets (continued)

On November 10, we returned to Portland, unpacked and did our laundry. It was good to be back.

On November 11, Veterans Day, I went to a local event honoring Vietnam veterans. It was a large turnout with people from other wars too. There were speeches and socializing, vets meeting other vets, and we received pins honoring our service. Just remember, not everyone who served had a choice, but that doesn’t matter, they served.

Interesting side-note – my Daily Word affirmation for that Sunday was “I am free through the freedom of Spirit.” The Bible verse, 2 Corinthians 3:17, for that day was: “. . . where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.”

On November 15, one of our grandsons did a sleepover. We walked the dogs and hung out.

On November 17, I continued my annual battle of the leaves (we have lots of trees) for disposal. My daughter hosted an early Thanksgiving dinner at her house, which gave us all a chance to overeat. The food was delicious.

On November 20, we made a decision on which Medicare supplement insurance to go with, after weeks of researching and thinking about. More leaf accumulation, up to about 50 bags now. Met with my running club in the evening to run on the track at a local school, windy and cold but dry.

Thanksgiving Day, November 22, I ran a 5K race and won my age group, which felt really good. I ran my fastest 5K time of the year. We had already celebrated our Thanksgiving dinner.

On November 24, we got invited over to my brother-in-law’s house for another Thanksgiving dinner, very well prepared and delicious. I overate again.

On November 25, I hauled 54 bags of leaves over to a disposal site, multiple trips in my truck. Done for this year thank goodness.

The rest of the month, we played Top Golf a few times, and did the rest of our normal routine.

“Oscar Wilde: ‘Do you mind if I smoke?’ Sarah Bernhardt: ‘I don’t care if you burn.'” Sarah Bernhardt
Sarah Bernhardt quotes – You can pick one that YOU like.

Pictures and Music

 

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Randy Newman: Sigmund Freud’s Impersonation of Albert Einstein in America